Mike and I take turns putting Ben to sleep. We both get him into his PJs and whoever isn’t rocking with him gives him a hug and kiss and hands him into the other parent who is sitting in the rocker. So I sat down and Mike was hugging him goodnight and Ben would not let Mike go. I got up to let Mike sit down and Mike passed him to me and Ben pitched a fit. He calmed down enough when he realized that all he had to do was give me a hug and a kiss and he’d go back to Daddy. When I put him in Mike’s lap, he was content. Does my baby not love me anymore?
February 28, 2007 at 3:56 PM
Oh dear, your baby DOES love you still. I too struggled with “not being wanted” by our youngest, who is just over 2 yrs old, 2 yrs and 2 days old to be exact. Sometimes this happens and it makes us wonder if our babies still love us because they want to be held or cuddled by someone else, but they really do still love us even though they don’t want it to be us that is holding them or rocking them etc. Cola is learning very well on how to play both her daddy and I. When dad says no she comes to mom, when mom says no she goes to dad. We guess she figures if one doesn’t give in the other will, lol. Dh was a bit stunned tonight when she told him “I do it meself” when it was time for getting her jammies on tonight, so now it’s him asking if she maybe just doesn’t love him anymore. As I told my dh, I think it’s more of a sign of them getting to know more of what they themselves want, and them also figurng out how exactly to get it or do it, lol. If only we could buy shrink rays to keep them little forever right? Of course that won’t ever happen, nor are we able to keep them to ourselves, so we must share in the delights of rocking them to sleep and holding them close before they start deciding more on what and who they do or don’t want to go to. Remember that it doesn’t matter who your baby does or doesn’t want to rock him or hold him close, remember that your baby will always love his mommy, and his daddy both, so all in all remember your baby DOES love you even when he starts figuring things out for himself. He’ll always love his mommy no matter what, :).